Many girls belong to a
clique that they relate with and these usually constitute about three or more
people. Of course there is always something common that brings them together like
a class, work, school, room or even from other friends. This makes them get a
sense of belonging. They start walking, eating, playing and doing a number of
things together. This is when our social Medias are flooded with pictures with
captions of bffs for life, out with my
girls, girls’ day out etcetera. This
makes them think that they got a sense of belonging and mostly feel comfortable
and loved when they are around their clique mates.
These groups usually
have three categories of people, there is always that rich top boss lady, the
mediocre bourgeoisie and the broke one. The boss ladies mostly contribute about
80% on the finances of clique. They are always the money lenders, problem
solvers and their say in decision making is usually final because the other
members know that they can hardly survive without them. The mediocre at most
just have what is enough for them and hardly contribute a thing to the group.
The broke ones are the ones usually sent to shops, told to carry bags or any
other hard work because their survival in the groups depends on the others so
they have to impress.
It’s not by accident
that these girls put on similar items like jewelry, clothes, hair styles and
pieces among others. This is all determined by the peers at times it’s not by
telling each other but due to the fight to meet standards of peers. A friend of
mine told me that she hates girl groups because of what happens in them. She
went ahead and explained how the cliques tend to dictate one’s ways of life and
the independence amongst many individuals is stepped on.
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| It’s not by accident that these girls put on similar items |
When one finds the right group there are a lot
of benefits from them. For those who are Christian girls they can be developed
spiritually, some find job opportunities, the ones still in school complete
their assignments on time if they are in the academic oriented cliques. That’s
why at times cliques can be good because they motivate people towards
beneficial things.
These groups can be
hurting especially because of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). This may happen in
case there is a gig that happened and one of the peers was left out. This
results into depression because the neglect ask themselves many questions as
to why they were left out. Research shows that exclusion triggers activity in
the same part of the brain that controls pain, says Judith V. Jordan, PhD, an assistant professor of
psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. Keith Negley in the article 6 things everyone needs to know about girl
cliques said that for some kids ejection from a friend group can be more
painful than being rejected by a crush because that pain involves only one
person. This brings a lot of emotional torture amongst many because it portrays
that you are a rejection of the many members that subscribe to that group. But
at times it’s necessary, you need to find new people.
